Investment vs. Payoff: Is Blogging Worth the Time?

 


First, a quick heads up, I'm being interviewed by Captain Jack Sparrow (how fun is that?) over at Romance Writers' Revenge today. Come say hi and check out how Captain Jack does at The Ranch. ;)

And congrats to...NOELLE PIERCE who won the STILL INTO YOU contest!!!! Thanks so much to everyone who bought the book and entered the contest. Love y'all! 


 

Is Blogging Worth the Time?

Photo Credit: Annie MoleIn a month, I'll hit my three year blogging anniversary. Three years of posting 3-5 times a week. That's a lot of blogs. And it's been a huge time investment. It still is. I love blogging, but I won't lie and say that it's always easy to keep it going.

In the beginning, blogging was the main way I was getting my writing out in the world. It was non-fiction, but it was still my writing. I was able to put a ton of time into each post because that book I was writing had no deadline. I wasn't even sure that book would see the light of day, so it was secondary to my journey to learn about writing craft, meet other writers, and connect in the blogosphere. I am so very glad I had that time because I've met some fabulous people, some of whom have now become close friends. 

But the blogging journey does transform a bit when you switch from being a blogger who writes to an author who blogs. Once you're published, writing books has to be number one on that list of priorities and blogging becomes secondary. If I don't put up a blog one day, y'all will forgive me. If I don't turn in a book by deadline, that's a bigger issue. So it becomes an exercise in learning to prioritize and balance.

I loved Nina Badzin's recent post on I’m Not an Aspiring Novelist (at least for now). She discovered in her blogging journey that the blogging format appealed to her more than writing a novel, so she's putting her focus where her current passions are. And I had to come to a similar conclusion (though in reverse) in January when I was still maintaining Fiction Groupie and this blog and trying to promo my debut on a blog tour and write the next book in my series. The house of popsicle sticks tumbled down around me. Maybe we can do it all, but doing it all well and keeping our sanity...not always possible. I knew I had to back off so much blogging because I'm a fiction writer first. That's where my deepest passion lies. So I downsized and streamlined.

But that begs the question, if your main goal is being an author, is blogging worth the time?

My thoughts...

1. If you're blogging because you thinks it's going to sell you a bazillion books, you're probably going to be disappointed.

A great blog can drive some word of mouth and some sales. I know that so many of my blogging and writing friends have bought my books, and I am so very thankful for that. *hugs you all* So yes, your community and friends will help support you and get the word out. BUT, even if you have a rocking following, it's still a drop in the bucket. I get 40k unique visitors to this blog a month currently. I assure you I haven't sold anywhere near 40k books, lol. Though that'd be lovely. So keep in mind that your blog can light a flame but it's not necessarily going to make you go viral.

2. Writing is a lonely business. Blogging and developing connections with the writing community can help save your sanity.

This is a priceless benefit. Twitter and the blogosphere are like my work watercooler. Without those friendships and connections, I'd feel like a hermit sitting here in my office pounding away at this keyboard. I'm an introvert, but I don't want to spend all day completely alone.

3. If you are blogging to connect with readers (who aren't other writers), you're going to have a a challenge on your hands.

I'm still working on this aspect of my blog. I had a writing blog for so long that most of my following was and still is other writers. I love my writer buddies and am so glad y'all are here, but I also want to have a place readers feel welcome. But the posts I've done that are non-writing focused tend to get the fewest comments and hits. (Well, boyfriend of the week does well, but I'm guessing lots of those hits are just image searches.) So it's a challenge. Most published author blogs that I know of attracted readers with their books first, not the other way around. (I talked about this more in  What Do READERS Want From an Author Blog?)

4. If you're going to write about the Random Ramblings of Randomness, then save yourself the trouble. (Unless you like talking to an empty room or are already famous.)

Having a blog just to have one is worse than not having one at all. If you're not somewhat focused in your content and you aren't giving the reader a takeaway, no one is going to stick around except your mom and a handful of others who are writing about Random Randomness. Caveat: If you're already famous, you can talk about whatever the heck you want. People already think you're fascinating.

So yes, I think blogging is still worth the time, but everyone should go in with realistic expectations and goals. Do it because you enjoy connecting with people, don't do it because you think it's going to vault you up the bestseller list. And if you're using your book writing time to blog instead, think about what you really want as an outcome. What is more important to you? It doesn't have to be a case of do one or the other, but it may mean reorganizing your time and priorities.

Also, Amber West gives some great tips about this process in her post: Do Writers Need to Blog?

So what are your thoughts? Why do you blog? What expectations do you have regarding your writing and blogging? Do you have trouble balancing your blogging with your writing time?

Made of Win Monday and Last Chance to Enter My Contest

Hope everyone had a great weekend! Today I have a bit of a Made of Win Monday round up.

First, today is the LAST DAY you can enter my STILL INTO YOU contest where you can win a box of awesome, a gift card, or a 20 page critique from me. Contest ends at midnight central time.

A few guest posts...

I'm over at Tory Michael's blog with an interview where I answer questions such as how I balance writing and blogging with the rest of my life and why I like writing BDSM.

I'm also on Peanut Butter on the Keyboard talking On Milk Allergies and Trusting Your Mommy Gut.

 

Now a few things Made of Win...

  • I finished writing NOT UNTIL YOU over the weekend, which is Ian's story (yes, the Ian in STILL INTO YOU.) So I managed to write and revise a 40k novella in 6 weeks. Yay! Now I know that's probably nothing to you speed writers, but that's a much improved pace for me. Now it's on to Kelsey's story, CAUGHT UP IN YOU.

 

 

  • Saw Snow White and The Huntsman this weekend and was pleasantly surprised. I'm not usually a fairy tale person, but I really enjoyed the movie. Now, I would've loved to see a little more romance-y stuff wrapped up, but I have a feeling they left things a little open with hopes for a sequel. I'm all for more Chris Hemsworth regardless. :) Two thumbs up.

 

 

  • I've been in the mood for a good horror story lately and wanted to try an indie one. After a few failed attempts at finding one whose sample pages didn't make me cringe, I ended up with Alexandra Sokoloff's The Harrowing . (I realized afterwards that though this one is indie now, it's her backlist and was orginally published by St. Martins. So oh well on my attempt to find a truly self-pubbed one, lol. But hey, the effort was there.) And I really enjoyed the story. It was creepy and had me leaving lights on when I was alone in the house at night. You can definitely tell that the author is a screenwriter because I could easily picture this story like it was playing on a screen. Someone on Goodreads described it as Scream meets The Exorcist. I think that's a pretty good description, though there was no humor like in Scream. Anyway, I enjoyed it and if you have Amazon Prime, it's free in the lending library.

Here's the blurb:

Baird College's Mendenhall echoes with the footsteps of the last home-bound students heading off for Thanksgiving break, and Robin Stone swears she can feel the creepy, hundred-year-old residence hall breathe a sigh of relief for its long-awaited solitude. Or perhaps it's only gathering itself for the coming weekend.

As a massive storm dumps rain on the isolated campus, four other lonely students reveal themselves: Patrick, a handsome jock; Lisa, a manipulative tease; Cain, a brooding musician; and finally Martin, a scholarly eccentric. Each has forsaken a long weekend at home for their own secret reasons.

The five unlikely companions establish a tentative rapport, but they soon become aware of a sixth presence disturbing the ominous silence that pervades the building. Are they the victims of a simple college prank taken way too far, or is the unusual energy evidence of something genuine---and intent on using the five students for its own terrifying ends? It's only Thursday afternoon, and they have three long days and dark nights before the rest of the world returns to find out what's become of them. But for now it's just the darkness keeping company with five students nobody wants and no one will miss.

 

All right, that was my Made of Win weekend, how was yours? Anyone else see Snow White? Anybody have any good horror recommendations for me (prefer creepy/scary to all out gore)?

 

Fill-Me-In Friday: Best Writing Links of the Week!

 

Did I miss the train?

Photo by Son of Groucho
  

Busy week? Need to catch up? It's time for Fill-Me-In Friday where I share the best links I've come across this week. 


 First a final reminder, my STILL INTO YOU contest is still open! So for a $2.99 purchase of STILL INTO YOU, you get a sexy novella and a chance to win a gift card, a box of awesome ($30 value) or a 20 page critique from me (not sure how much that's worth, but I had a 10pg crit go for almost $400 in a charity auction last year, so this is a deal compared to that, lol.) Contest closes Monday night.

Also, huge thanks to everyone who has already bought STILL. *hugs* I heart you guys. : )


 

All right, enough shameless promotion, on to the links...

On Writing/Publishing: 

 

Special Annoucement:

 

On Social Networking:

 

On Life: 

 

What You May Have Missed Here:

Order STILL INTO YOU This Week and Win a Box of Awesome!

 

 

How To Write Love Scenes That Don't Suck - A Free Class!

 

 

Spice It Up Thursday: Music Is For More Than Dancing

 

And thanks to the following reviewers for posting reviews this week... 

  • "All I can say is I was blown away. A very true look into marriage, how it develops, fantasies being met and the depth each is willing to go to only to save their love and marriage. A must read!" - Delighted Reader 
  • "Still Into You was a great emotional and sexy read. Once they arrived at The Ranch, the sizzle factor went through the roof. Besides the smoking hot sex scenes, there was a great story about two people who love each other trying to find their way back." -Love To Read For Fun
  • "Realistic, sweet and adorable romance!  Recommended!"- Books Are Magic
  • "Roni Loren writes unconventional love stories that are hot enough to make the pages spontaneously combust, yet also emotionally complex and beautifully told.  You don’t find that combination very often...at least I don’t.  I think she is a must read for erotic romance lovers." - Seductive Musings
  • "I loved the story.  Seth and Leila's marriage was perfectly written and their struggles with juggling family, responsibilities and still keeping the "spark" in a marriage alive was dead on.  Roni Loren is quickly becoming a must buy for me.  Can't wait for Melt Into You."Cocktails and Books
  • "Roni was able to convey not only the pain they felt but the passion. Oh my goodness, but do these two have some serious passion together. Seth and Leila are way hot together, and I enjoyed watching them reconnect with one another. After finishing this novella, I definitely can't wait to get my hands on more from Roni Loren." - Ramblings from This Chick
  • And if you want to see who I used for visual inspiration, check out my mancandy post at Romancing Rakes For The Love of Romance: Guest Post with Roni Loren + Giveaway

 

All right, that's all I've got this week. Hope you all have a fabulous weekend!

Spice It Up Thursday: Music Is For More Than Dancing

Photo by halighalie (click pic for link)Welcome back to my Spice It Up feature. This is a short blog series I'm doing in honor of the release of STILL INTO YOU, a story about a married couple trying to fall back in lust with each other after life has gotten in the way. :)

So far we've talked about Sexy Role-Playing and The Real Girl's Guide to Lingerie. Today I'm covering something a little more basic. Music.

There's a reason movies have music in the background of the sexy scenes. It adds a layer to things, inspires certain emotions or moods. Yet, in our own lives, we often forget that this can be added to our own sexy times with our partners. Yes, it takes extra thought and maybe a little planning, but nothing is sexier than partners making an effort to make something a little more special and less mundane.

 

Tips on Using Music in the Bedroom

Beware of the radio

One option is to just turn on the radio to a favorite station and hope for the best. But be warned, this can often derail more than enhance the situation. Nothing like having a sexy moment and a commercial for the local plumber comes on or a song that you hate. Women, more so than men, are easily distracted in the moment. So don't set yourself of your partner up for losing focus.

Each of you make a playlist on your own. Then maybe have a collaborative one.

What your idea of a sexy soundtrack is and his idea may be two different things. That's okay. Each come up with your own playlists and then take turns using them. And don't judge the other person's. You should each be free to pick what you want when it's your turn.

You don't have to focus only on the romantic love songs.

If romantic slow songs are what make you happy, that's fine, use them. But push yourself a bit and think of songs that are sexy in their own right without necessarily being the traditional love songs. Sex can be slow, romantic, intense, dirty, fun, kinky, whatever. There are all kinds of songs that can play to the mood you want to set. (I always think about this when writing. Even if I don't write it in, when I'm writing a love scene, there is usually a certain type of music playing in the background depending on the mood of the scene.)

Consider having a few afterglow songs too.

See, I told you this takes planning. So maybe you went the intense route and used heavy rock music for your sexy times. Afterwards, you're not going to still want that blaring, so have a mellow, we're in the afterglow playlist you can switch to and enjoy the moment with your partner.

Headphones can be fun.

This is moving into a little bit of sensory deprivation kind of thing, but wireless headphones or earbuds can be a fun thing to try. You can also add a blindfold and then the person can focus on nothing but their partner's touch and the sound of the music. The music via headphone can keep the person totally focused on the moment and what they're feeling. Fun times. :)

 

All right, those are just a few ideas, but hopefully it gets you started on thinking about what could work for you.

Oh, and another reminder...

My STILL INTO YOU contest is still open: Order STILL INTO YOU This Week and Win a Box of Awesome, a gift card, or a 20 page critique from me!

 

Question for y'all: What do you consider the sexiest song ever?

Mine is probably "Cry to Me" from Dirty Dancing but that's because I'm obsessed with that movie and it plays during my favorite scene. :) 

How To Write Love Scenes That Don't Suck - A Free Class!

Parisian Love Lock Photo by Allen Skyy (click photo for link)

If you were not able to attend DFW Con this year, then you missed out on my How to Write Love Scenes That Don't Suck class. But don't stress, for this one time only, I'm going to be offering this class free through Candace Havens' free writer workshop loop. The class starts Monday June 18 and ends on the 22nd. The information will be through a yahoo loop so you don't have to be present at any specific time during the day but will need to check in to participate at some point each day.

Here's the class description:

How To Write Love Scenes That Don't Suck -- Whether you're writing YA, thrillers, or melt-the-pages romance, no one wants to write love scenes that have readers skimming the pages. Learn tips and tricks on how to write different types of love scenes, how to tailor them to your genre, the components of a great love scene, and how to get past any oh-no-my-mother-might-read-this qualms.

To sign up go here, scroll down, and sign up for the yahoo loop under Free Writing Workshops.

Hope to see y'all there! :)

CONTEST ALERT: And in case you missed it on Monday my contest is still open - Order STILL INTO YOU This Week and Win a Box of Awesome, a gift card, or a 20 page critique from me!